These gorgeous photos show moms who love their postpartum bodies.THE AUDIO PODCAST IS AVAILABLE HERE: LISTEN Whether you’re a stepmom, mom, or anyone who wants to rock a two-piece: If you’ve got a bod and a bikini, you’ve got a bikini bod! It’s creepy that your husband believes you are an object of temptation to your son.”

Teach your son to respect women as human beings. His claim that his cultural/beliefs need to be respected by you simply because he wants you to do it is total bullshit. It’s about your husband’s ridiculous belief that you are responsible for how boys and men respond to your appearance. “You are right to not permit it or to accommodate it. “I want to point out that your husband’s use of the word ‘modest’ to describe how he wants you to dress is a coded way of body shaming you,” NoxWild wrote. Sadly, we think we have to agree with NoxWild’s comments on Reddit, concluding that the husband’s issues with bikinis really stem from something other than what is appropriate for their son or what fits with Muslim norms. Bikinis are totally acceptable for moms of kids of all ages, for women of all shapes and sizes, for anyone who wants to wear one! While there might be a case to be made that she should not be in her underwear in front of her stepson, her swimwear should be her choice. But this stepmom and her husband are not arguing about whether she can be naked in front of her stepson, but about whether or not she should wear a bikini, which seems like another matter entirely. And it makes sense that similar rules would apply to a stepmom who had been a mother to a child since he or she was little. However, children may start to ask for privacy around age 4 or 5, which may indicate their discomfort with seeing parents naked as well,” Peykar says.” Most children will feel less comfortable about nudity when they are moving into the tween years.” “From a psychological perspective, there isn’t a recommended age to avoid being naked in front of your children. He suddenly has a problem with it? Why didn’t he care eight years ago?” Exactly!įirst, is it OK for kids to see their parents naked? Licensed psychotherapist and marriage and family counselor Shirin Peykar told SheKnows that “parental nudity doesn’t necessarily cause psychological issues in children.” Of course, it’s fine until a parent or child is no longer comfortable with it, and when that changes depends on the individuals involved. Is it really the son reaching puberty that led to this new opinion?Īs yourlittlevoice commented, “Blaming it on his religion is a stretch. This is a super interesting post because it seems like the stepmom has previously worn bikinis without her husband thinking it was inappropriate, whether for his son to see or anyone else. “Am I the asshole for refusing to be more modest?” He sent me a text later telling me that he’s very upset with me for not respecting his culture and religion,” she continues. “We argued for an hour and ended up leaving the house. The stepmom goes on to explain that while she was online shopping for bikinis, her husband asked her not to purchase any two-piece swimsuits because “it’s inappropriate.” She went off on him and told him that he’s the one being “inappropriate and weird,” and that his son is also her son. I was very offended, since I consider him my son and I raised him since he was 6 years old.” “He justified it by explaining that in his culture - he’s ‘from a Muslim Arab country’ - you should dress modestly around non-family members. “Ever since my stepson (14M) hit puberty, my husband started commenting on my clothes and asking me to not wear a two-piece bikini around my stepson,” she continues. This sounds like a really lovely stepmom-and-stepkid relationship! Things are getting trickier, though… I pretty much raised him since his mother has always been out of the picture, and even though he doesn’t call me ‘mom’ we have a great relationship.” “We fell in love hard and got married a year later. “I (35F) met my husband (43M) eight years ago,” wrote scarifairy on Reddit.

My teenage son wants to quit all sports